I haven't had much to say lately. That's partly because when I do post, I don't get much feedback. There are a few special bloggers out there, who always comment and offer support. You know who you are, and I love you for it.
But, other than those faithful folks…well, I've honestly tried to branch out, and leave comments on lots of other weight loss blogs, but I never seem to get many reciprocal comments. As a result, I've lost a lot of the "joy" of blogging, which, let's be honest, is very much related to getting feedback and comments, especially when I've tried to reach out to others.
I've tried to analyze why this is. The first thought is...I'm just really boring. But then I thought about it some more...and I think it's because I don't really fit in with the "weight loss" crowd. I don't really know what you live with every day. I have a whole other set of issues that really aren't about weight loss, or food. My issues are thinking I'm fat when I'm not; they are about a severely distorted body image and a variety of social phobias related to eating, due to childhood trauma. And I don't think that is the type of thing that people who are really trying to lose a lot of weight, or maintain a weight loss, want to read about. We all have a limited amount of time and energy to spend blogging, and it's natural to spend it on and with people who are struggling with the same issues.
So, I'm just going to take a break from blogging. I'll still visit my favorite blogs and comment. Because even though I don't know you personally, there are so many of you that I truly love and appreciate and admire.
Take care.
AUUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHH I'm so frustrated. I typed out a comment to you and did some funky ass crap with my fingers on the keyboard and lost it. My thoughts never come out as smooth when I try and compose my entry a second time. I will do my best. Here goes....
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean. I've felt the same way about my blog for quite awhile now. I don't even get comments from people that are my friends in REAL life that I talk to day to day. It is frustrating, and if I'm being completely honest, a wee bit hurtful too.
I'm not a blogger that does the whole, "I ate this today", sort of thing and that seems to be what the majority of bloggers are looking for and doing. I just don't see the whole excitement in seeing what I ate. It's oats for breakfast with a coffee EVERY day, so where is the excitement in that??? I struggle with finding my blogging niche. As much as I would love to have lots of followers and comments, I've never been one for having a lot of friends and a crazy social life. I'm more about quality in my life than quantity. So, I guess that translates to my blog too. I would rather know I've made a friend, real or internet (you) with genuine caring comments than have a bunch of generic comments.
I will miss you and your updates. You come back when you want and until then, never hesitate to e-mail me privately if you need anything or just want to chatter! stitchinggirl"AT"hotmail"DOTCOM".
Big hugs!
Oh, G, this makes me sad personally, but if this is what you feel you've got to do, then you should do it.
ReplyDeleteFWIW, I share more in common with you than others at this stage of the journey. I shall miss you and the little peek at my homeland that you offer. Oh, and I've been blogging for 9 years and it's only been in the last year that I began to get read a little more consistently. Food for thought.
Take good care, my friend.
Oh Friend....don't take it personally. I always think your posts are thoughtful and educational. I have loved reading about your successes. You talk about her distorted body image. Makes me feel like I'm not alone. Plus, I was loving the videos of B.
ReplyDeleteWe are more alike then we are different. Lots more. Hope you change your mind.
hugs to you
I don't get much feedback either. And I have been very absent the last few months, due to school, but I hope you don't stay away for too long.
ReplyDeletexxoo
imagine my horror to have been having a mild breakdown of my own - only to come back and find that you're not blogging!! I just want to say that, while I have been gone for a while - I have actually thought of you often - and that when you come back - I will be here waiting to read!
ReplyDeleteEgh. I know how that is, trust me!
ReplyDeleteI do stop by your blog at least once a week, but I don't spend as much time leaving comments on blogs as I used to because I don't spend as much time in blog land. Mostly I blog now for myself- at any time if I don't feel like it benefits me I don't post (hence the rapid decline in posts over the months). When I want to share something I do-
If blogging benefits you, I would stay with it. You could even turn off your comments so there would not be the temptation to care about it. BUT if it bores you... or makes you feel down... drop it.
I have always enjoyed reading what you have to say because I relate to a lot of it. I stopped talking about weight loss on my own blog, and stick to ED stuff... Don't do what doesn't feel good!
I wish you the best either way!
I always think of our group as being "wounded" somehow...
ReplyDeleteAll of us fatties.....former fatties...
All of the weight issues are a symptom of larger issues....
Heavy hearts, and minds, and souls.
Covered up with sugar topping "I candy" - read as "ego!"
Low Frustration Tolerance, Low Self Esteem....Expectaions...
Morbid Obesity and just plain old "morbid."
I have been everyone of these, and will be again.
We all have.
I am learning to not get wrapped up in what this person says
or doesn't say....we are all going through something.
People and personalities...
And with the RSS it's quantity, not quality sometimes.
FEED, they call it. Yes indeed.
That court case seemed to represent a turning point in your life.
I hope your break refreshes you
I will miss your thoughtful posts, and B of course! But as someone else has already said, you must do what you feel is right for you. I hope your blogging break is restorative and renewing. Best wishes to you.
ReplyDeleteOh, crap. I've been busy with AP testing and when I get home I'm so drained and I'm just getting around to reading a few blogs and look what I find. I feel very close to you and just love you, even though I only know you from blogging. I love all the things that Anne H said. I think we all have some issues in some ways that aren't a perfect fit for others, but when we care about the struggles that each of us face, the details don't matter. We are just here for each other. I'm always here, Graciela. I may not always leave a comment but I send you virtual hugs just the same.
ReplyDeleteYou do what is good for you. Take a little break. Post pictures of B. But know that you are a friend.
I understand. It appears I'm on a break as well. I didn't post for almost two months. Life changes and we change. I love your blog but my new life as a working wife, step-mom/grandmom/greatgrandmom has really taken my focus off weight loss and blogging. I'm doing Nutrisystem right now and love it. However, unlike you, I have 91 lbs to lose. Your posts have helped me many times recognize issues that I have carried for years so I think you are more influencial than you realize. I wish you well and look forward to reading more posts from you.
ReplyDeleteI read your most recent comment, but don't see where it says "post a comment" I'm new to the blogging thing. Have only blogged a few times and have not gotten Any responses so it is frustrating. Perhaps we could respond to each others! I'm looking for feedback! I agree the eating disorder is like a friend. I once said it's like a bad friend you can't get rid of!
ReplyDeleteHi, Graciela! It's good to hear from you. I loved the baby birds. And, you know, I never would have thought about baby bees. How cute!
ReplyDeleteTake care and have a great weekend.
Tena