I do love my hub, but sometimes he's not very nice to me. He has a temper and tends to yell at me about silly stuff. This vacation has really brought this to a head. I just told him tonight (the day before we leave for home) that "we will talk" when we get back to Seattle.
My bottom line is…I need to be treated with respect. I'm absolutely not a "high maintenance" person...but I do have some basic needs.
Seriously…all I want is to be treated nicely. Don't YELL at me. Don't DEMEAN me. Don't treat me like CRAP. Don't treat me like I'm an idiot…because I AM NOT. Yes, I love my hub and my life.
But since we've been on vacation, some stuff has come up. And it's not pretty.
I'm a valuable person and I WILL be respected. I love him but I don't "need" him, in any financial or emotional sense. So...
If he can't treat me with respect...the relationship WILL end.
I am so sorry you and the hubs are having some problems. My mother and dad seemed to fight every time we went on vavation. Don't know why.
ReplyDeleteEveryone deserves to treated with respect. Talk it over the hubs. Things will get better, one way or the other. Do what is best for you!
{{hugs}}
OMG, I'm so behind on reading your blog. I so loved Hawaii when I went there. I so want to go back. Oh and the "rich B" comment you got. I would say just consider it a positive confession. I would say, yes, yes, I am rich in every sense of the word and Anonymous is blessed to have found my blog. So there but still it was rude from someone jealous.
ReplyDeleteNow for your hubs behavior. What can I say he is a man and men in general are stupid. You keep respect for yourself. You have come so far do not let yourself be pushed around.
By the way, hiking to the top of Diamond head. I am so impressed and you are beautiful. I love the picture.
If respect can't be given freely, sometimes it's gotta be demanded. Good for you for sticking up for yourself.
ReplyDeletebest wishes that the talk helps heal
ReplyDeleteThis is never a good place to find yourself. It is a rude awakening to the way you would have allowed someone to treat you at one time or another. Changing your reaction to the behaviour is one thing, getting the behaviour changed a whole other thing.
ReplyDeleteSending the world's biggest hugs and the strength to know you're doing the right thing by standing up for yourself!
Hugs!