I haven’t been motivated to post lately, or even to read other's blogs. I’m in a bit of a funk, probably due to the weather, but also I just can’t seem to shake an old feeling that has popped up more and more frequently lately…that I’m old, fat and ugly. Rather than reach out...by posting or commenting or talking to others or doing something positive...I tend to isolate and ruminate. I wouldn’t describe it as feeling sorry for myself…it’s more like I’m just feeling kind of bummed out.
Part of it may be the hot weather, the necessity of wearing skimpier clothing and bathing suits which accentuate the negative parts of my body…love handles and flabby belly, crepey skin on my arms and chest. Rather than be seen by anyone, including myself, I’d rather hide and not think about it. It doesn’t really affect my day to day life, because I put on a happy face for others to see…but inside I’m feeling kind of down.
I need to do something positive to get myself out of this rut. Seeing Dr D helps, but due to financial reasons, I’ve had to reduce my sessions with her down to every other week. I wish I could get motivated to work out more, but right now I’m just thinking…what’s the use? I’m just going to get older and more flabby and droopy no matter what I do…unless it’s something surgical and I don’t want to do that because it scares me. I think what I need to do is…just get over myself. But that’s easier said than done. Just telling myself to perk up doesn’t seem to be working.
Anybody have any words of wisdom on how to pull oneself out of an emotional funk? I’d love to hear actual examples or stories of what works for you.
I know how the heat can take it out of you! Over a week of extereme heat advisory. I think it's 113 today. At least we have AC.
ReplyDeleteI wish I knew the cure for the funk....I would bottle it and my money problems would be gone forever! Just know that it doesn't last forever! I usually let myself feel it. It doesn't make it any easier to take. This to shall pass..........
Sometimes I will clean something, that always makes me feel better!
Stay cool!
I think it is the heat. I have been feeling depressed since it hit (last week?)... I would say be patient, and hope for a break. Seriously I have been angry and impatient... I am just patiently waiting until it cools off. I can wait, you can wait?? We are not geared (ie: no mutherfuckingAC) for this shit! Nothing else but patience- swimming in cold water??
ReplyDeleteIt might be the heat.
ReplyDeleteGet this straight girlfriend you are are not old, fat and ugly. Age is a state of mind and you can lose weight!
I plan on being fit and fun at 48 and 49 and fabulous at 50.
You are never too old to change and take care of your body. It will cool down, fall is coming. Hang in there.As I have posted lately there is no time limit. If it is too hot to exercise make some other positive changes like drinking water, add a fruit or veggie a day. Feed your mind with positive things about yourself. What you think is what you are. You know you are not old, ugly and fat.
I am with Mary Beth (I will be 48 in a couple of weeks) - you are so NOT old! Slap on the moisturiser (good grief, I typed mousturiser then, lol) (helps the crepe) and show those young uns that we aren't dead yet!
ReplyDeleteSounds like you could do with a bit of pampering, yeah as MB says above, doing a few positive things for yourself will help. Heck, you deserve it!
Hope you feel better soon.
For what its worth I was just discussing a concept with my mom recently relating to an approach that is helping me with weight loss/improved emotional, mental healtl, phsycial, health/etc, that we ended up talking about regarding its application to how we percieve ourselves physically. So, here (roughly) is that strategy, which, along with its many other applications I have been using, my mom is also now using in relation to her recent unhappiness and funk about HER looks (she's 61): "Act yourself to better thinking, as opposed to thinking your way to better acting."
ReplyDeleteIt's easier to act as if and let the changes in how we think about things come, then to try to think ourselves into a new, in this case, actionable perception of ourselves.
Again, I've really been enjoying that concept and its plethora of applications, but I not in your shoes and so dont know if it is helpful, but there it is regardless, for what its worth.
More importantly, Im just glad you shared how you were feeling as that helps obviously. I wish you peace and love and all the best.
For me? Meditate, relocate my center, and breathe. Focus on what feels good right now, what things I do have, and what things I have accomplished. It is re-writing the negative tapes looping in our heads.
ReplyDeleteThe humidity is a killer however. I got very sick last night from it.
Try to drink a gallon of water. You'll be surprised how much better you'll feel.
For me, the first thing I check is have I been getting enough quality sleep. I haven't been posting much either, and I tired. I told Hub to let me sleep as long as I could on Saturday, and I slept until almost noon! I did not know I could still no that.
ReplyDeleteWith your recent lack of sleep and the heat, and maybe even the Chinese food (MSG does a real number on me), it may be more physical.
But I'll be 50 in a few days and I sure don't have the body or face that I had even 10 years ago. But I have so much more that is so much more important. And I really do believe that is true for you too.
Well, honey if I had words of wisdom I'd use them on myself. I'm 55 but my saging and baging doesn't bother me because I feel great. I know what others see and what I see are not the same but I'm fortunate in that I don't have children or grandchildren or a mate to remind me of my age. I just realized I'm no help whatsoever cause I live in my own fantasy world. HA!!! There you go creat a fantasy world for yourself and refuse to come out of it. HA!!!!! I crack myself up.
ReplyDeleteOh, and for what it is worth my teeth selection is option 4.
I hope you pull yourself out of your funk. I'm trying really hard not to get into one over my teeth. To top it all off one of my key staff members resigned and didn't have the courage to tell me directly. She put a letter in my mail box Friday when I was gone to the Doctor. Sometimes life sucks but then you just deal and go on. Sorry, I'm not helping at all.
I will just remind you of the feeling that comes with exercise. That exhilaration a person feels when they are done. The overwhelming feeling that you can do anything, because you just finished "x". The rush that comes with seeing your body working at it's best. The high you feel when you know you're preparing your body for "old age" and that "old age" will bring the best it can bring because you've treated your body to a workout.
ReplyDeleteWhen you're feeling all that - who has time to feel bad about the other bits?? Wink, wink.