I ought to be ashamed...

I forgot my wedding anniversary today. My 18th. YIKES.

A co-worker and I were driving to a meeting in a nearby town this morning, and as we chatted, he was telling me that he and his wife got married "twice" (they eloped, then got married again in a ceremony with family and friends). I asked him what date he considers his actual anniversary, when all of a sudden, a thought went through my head. I asked him what today's date was...April 21. CRAP! Sure enough, today is the date. My 18th wedding anniversary. At that moment, I felt awful.

I called Hub right away, knowing he wouldn't have remembered either. And he hadn't. But I don't expect him to. It's not his job. It's MY job to remind him in advance. I was a bit surprised when he said, "What kind of people are we???" Rhetorically, not accusatorily. More like..."Who totally forgets their wedding anniversary? How is that possible?" I said, "It's okay, we've had a lot going on," but he was pissed. Not too much, mostly at himself, and not at me.

Later, he just called me and offered to cook dinner tonight. But he is still not 100% recovered and it doesn't seem fair that he has to work to make an "anniversary" dinner for me. I know he's very lucky that I married him (*smile*) but we should both enjoy ourselves, together.

Instead I suggested we go out to a local Greek restaurant we both like and have their omelets. They are made with gyro meat, feta cheese, tomatoes, and olives. We can both have a salad and a glass (or two) of wine (and hold hands...the best part.). He really brightened up at that suggestion. That way, we will still have stayed on our 4HB diet. So that's what we are going to do. And we'll be able to save up our cheat day for Easter Sunday. (Normally our cheat day is Saturday, but Sunday we'll go to my mom's with my bro & SIL & niece. Lots of food, rolls, dessert, & such...aka Carb Central. So we're holding off an extra day.)

Anyway, I feel guilty for forgetting the date, mostly because I forgot to remind him. I know that sounds weird, but he counts on me for certain things, and this is one of them. I never want him to feel bad or guilty for forgetting. And because guilt is such an ingrained part of me (thanks, Mom), I hate "guilt" as an emotion, no matter who is feeling it. So Hub & I agreed years ago that I would just remind him because I'm usually very good at dates and such.

What is the moral of the story? Put a reminder in your Outlook calendar for a few days in advance of your anniversary. (Yes, I've already done it for the next 5 years...)

Have a wonderful Easter weekend! Don't eat too many chocolate bunnies!